A Relationship! It's one of the most beautiful, sacred, yet challenging relations we share with our significant other.
When two people come together, fall in love, and decide to date or get married, it is one of the most cherished memories of their life.
Your partner is not just an addition to your life. They are the ones, you share most time with, travel with, eat with, laugh with, and more. Now, when two people are likely to spend so much time together, it is obvious the chances of misunderstandings, some arguments, tolerating annoying habits, and more tend to happen.
Most of the time, we hear people saying "all couples fight", isn't it normal, natural? I mean nothing out of the blue.
Yes, couples argue, end up fighting, continue fighting, and eventually part ways. However, this is one of the common reasons why most breakups happen. Some couples don't come to common ground and continue with the same story of constant fighting every day.
So, are there ways by which a couple can resolve their fights smoothly rather than taking a serious decision of separation?
Yes, there are ways. And not just one but multiple ways to resolve your fights. So, here are 5 easy steps you can implement to have a smooth and long-lasting relationship.
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It's not You V/s Me but We V/s the Conflict
Every fight/conflict is like a problem and every problem has a solution. So, to find a solution, you have to come together. Often while fighting, couples try to blame each other, point fingers at each other, and end up making it about right and wrong.
Yes, someone is right and the other is wrong. However, right now that doesn't matter, first know what is the root cause of the problem. Don't make it personal about you and me. It is you both together (we) against the problem. This is an ideal way of coming together and finding a solution to resolve the conflict.
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Removing Past Mistakes while fighting
Often couples try to bring each other down by recalling their past mistakes. This is one of the major reasons the fight never ends. If you made a mistake in the past and try to use it against your partner just to have an upper hand, you are going to end up in a vicious cycle.
The past is gone and should be forgotten, don't try to overlap it with the current fights and stretch it for no reason. Be aware and attentive to the present situation and bring your focus back to the current moment. Just resolve the current issue and forget the rest.
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Keeping your cool during the fights
Getting angry is one of the reasons why fights don't get resolved. So, keep your calm, hear what the other person is saying, understand it, and process it. Rather than getting angry because that's just easy. Yes, sometimes, it's hard to control our anger, but you know what's worst, once you get angry you have two conflicts to resolve. One is your actual fight and the other is your anger management situation.
So, now just imagine dealing with both of them at once. It's like falling flat on the face of the earth. Hence, the best thing is when you feel anger, it is better you just communicate it with your partner, find your peace, and resolve the fight at the end of the day.
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Step into your Partner's Shoes
To understand your partner, you have to be willing to get into their shoes. On the surface level, you may resolve fights and find temporary solutions, however, if you want to find permanent solutions, then dig deeper.
To truly understand why, what, how, and more about your partner, try to view yourself as each other, not only will you find a new perspective but also learn more about each other.
A new perspective can add more meaning to your relationship and you can grow your bond stronger and forever.
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Add some Humor and Fun to your Relationship
This is a piece of offbeat advice, but a genuine game-changer. Most of the time, couples, friends, or siblings who argue, take everything too seriously and end up constantly fighting.
Some silly or stupid issues daily should be taken with a pinch of humor. In the same way like when you see your pictures from the past, you cringe and just want to delete them. It's because now you are grown up, more mature, and don't relate to that person in the photograph. In the same way, some fights are like that, when you think about it the next day, you feel ashamed of yourself.
So, adding a twist of humor to your daily banter will make you realize that things are simple and fights get resolved happily.
When we say words are powerful, they hold immense power, so choose your words wisely, likewise, humor has its charm. So, when utilized at the right time, it can be a win-win situation.
So, these were the 5 ways in which you can resolve your fights before they escalate to the top of the pyramid.
Also, just remember, every relationship is built on a foundation. Just as when you construct a building, the stronger the foundation is, the more floors the building can withstand and maintain its stature for long decades.