Ancestral Trauma, the name itself is quite self-explanatory. The traumas given by ancestors to their children or grandchildren are called Ancestral Trauma. Any kind of trauma is capable of making a person’s life a living hell.
But if these traumas are gifted to you (sarcastically speaking) by your fathers or grandfathers then the burden suddenly increases. Because now it’s not only you that needs healing but all the generations of trauma that is fitted subconsciously into your brain need to be healed too.
Generational trauma: An unwanted gift from our Ancestors
Ancestral trauma or you can say generational trauma is something many people struggle with. The only good thing about generational trauma is that people are aware of and discussing it in the 21st century. Because before that, it was just a way to live for many.
Articles and blogs are being written, therapies and podcasts are being conducted. Those who can afford are going to therapies and those who cannot are finding stuff on the internet for free. Willpower is the only thing one needs to start their healing journey.
But before getting into the healing part let’s just take a look at the deep-rooted generational trauma. What is it? what are the negatives effects of generational trauma and ways to heal from it?
Generational trauma occurs when a person meets with a traumatic incident and is not able to heal from it, ever. In this case, he passes on that unhealed trauma to his next generations indirectly.
Let us suppose, there is an unhealed person in your family. That person will not know how to control his own emotions and those uncontrolled emotions will reflect negatively on his life and as well as the life of his loved ones.
That trauma will not allow him to love himself and for that reason, he will not be able to give the love and affection his family and children need. Those children will grow up without emotional support and will face issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, not being able to stand up for themselves, will not be able to healthily express their emotions, and many more things like these.
Every person on this planet needs to be healed so that they don’t become the reason for someone’s increased therapy bill.
Healing Generational Trauma: Better Late than Never
If you are someone who has been severely affected by generational trauma then this heading is for you as here, we will not only talk about healing but will also give you practical ways to speed up your healing process.
· It’s good to know that you decided to break the cycle of agony and pain that your ancestors have unknowingly transferred to your subconscious.
· The very first step was to become aware of your traumas and accept that you need healing. Because many people never really accept that there is something wrong with them.
· Various therapies are available for different types of traumas. There is a parent-child interaction therapy, Child-parent relationship therapy, Family play therapy, family systems therapy, and many more yet to be mentioned. Getting these therapy classes will help you for sure.
· If you can’t afford therapy or will not be able to join therapy classes for some reason then you should seek help from the internet. There are various online free therapy sessions available that can help you heal.
· Bring a change in your lifestyle, break the old negative patterns that trigger your trauma and make you feel bad in any way. Think before you react, this way you will stop reacting compulsively and have control over yourself.
· Having this feeling of control will help you enhance your self-image and self-esteem. These small-small steps and victories will someday make you the healed person you are aspiring to be.
· Healing is not something you can get overnight. It’s not even something to get. Healing is being. A positive and healthy way of being. And please know that “Good things take time” as healing is a complex journey.
· So, if you get impatient and think all of this is useless and you are not seeing any results then just remember why you wanted to heal in the first place. If you get your answer, then there is no reason to stop. Keep grinding.
Conclusion
Being born without permission can be somehow managed (understand the sarcasm), but getting all of that unwanted generational trauma from our parents and grandparents is just not done.