Mother wound? Is that even a word? I have heard of mother’s love, mother’s care, mother’s sacrifice. But Mother Wound? That’s something new and weird to know about.
It’s completely okay if you are someone who thinks like that. Nobody in our patriarchal society discusses the pain of a woman and the amount of hurt they have beared for thousands of years now.
Everything related to the mother’s wound and ways to heal it will be discussed here in the easiest way possible. So, keep on reading because it’s time to heal.
The Not So Shocking Revelation of Mother Wound
· A mother wound occurs when a mother who is a woman is not able to give the required love and affection to their child during their growth years. Because of this the child then becomes an adult faces issues like low self-esteem, lack of confidence, not being able to express their emotions healthily, unable to stand up for themselves, and many more things like these.
· This was just a short and crisp description of what a Mother Wound feels like. But in reality, this wound is much more deep-rooted than what was mentioned above. You may think “What does mother wound have to do with the mother being a woman?”. Like mother is a parent, right? Then why does gender matter?
· Gender matters because we live in a patriarchal society where people talk about women’s empowerment but their voices are still suppressed when they try to speak up for themselves or try to live on their terms.
· Seeing this, women have two choices. They can either rebel against society or mold with it. Those women who decide to compromise on their dreams develop frustration within. They don’t heal, they just live a life of fear of abandonment and various other insecurities.
· That fear and frustration do not allow them to become a good mother to their daughters. They are not able to give all of their love, affection, and attention to them because of which the daughter again feels abandoned and gets involved in the trap of a lifetime of insecurities.
· This way these wounds are transferred from generation to generation and the worst part is, people are not even aware that something like this exists. Mother wounds are generally mother-daughter related. These wounds are subconsciously transferred from mothers to their daughters.
Now, the concept of mother wounds must be cleared. Wounds are discussed now let’s talk about healing.
Healing: A Hurtful yet Important Journey.
You are here, reading this article that means you have acknowledged that you or someone you know is deeply wounded and needs healing. Well, your search for healing ends here because this heading will explain all the methods through which you can heal efficiently and effectively.
· The first step towards any healing is the realization that you are wounded. Once you have that, all the other steps become easy to execute.
· Let go. Yes, it’s the next step. After realizing those emotions, now it’s time for you to get go of them. Also, let go of the idea that you have in your mind of how your mother is supposed to be and accept her for who she is.
· All the anger and hurt that have been filled inside you for years now need to be released for good.
· Understand that your mother is also a victim and needs help. Once all the anger and frustration that you have goes away, you will be able to think clearly and realize that it’s not her fault.
· Mother and daughter when come together make a really strong team. Don’t let society break this bond. The process of healing becomes faster when you have someone to support you. Allow your mother to be your support system.
· If because of some reasons you still were not able to forgive her and the idea of maintaining a relationship with her seems a little too hard then no worries, don’t become besties. The least you can do is try to make healthy boundaries with her.
· If you can have your mother as a support system then instead of crying about it you can try to parent yourself and manage your emotions on your own.
Conclusion
We started by giving an introduction about what a mother wound is and how nobody knows that it exists. After that, we gave an in-depth explanation of the mother’s wound. How it has been affecting our mothers and daughters for years now.
The unending cycle of transferring these wounds from one generation to another came to an end when we discussed some of the steps on healing and letting go.