Sister wound. This is not a word many people have heard of but it is something many can relate to. Living in this world, it is quite obvious to say that every woman has experienced sister wounds in their lifetime. Can’t even say at least once because, for some, it happens daily.
Here, this article will help you get a clear understanding of what is a sister wound and how you can heal from it. Keep on reading if you want your questions to be gracefully answered.
Sister wound- A sad reality of our patriarchal society
Many women are not even aware that wounds like this exist. For sure, they have faced it, but now they think this is how society works. It’s funny how common sister wounds have become. It’s not even funny actually, it’s just sad and anger-provoking.
Sister wound is when women doubt their worth and start comparing themselves with other women and as a result, end up hurting everyone. It’s a saying that a woman is a women’s biggest enemy. This saying is the outcome of sister wound. There is no apt definition that can fully describe what a sister wound is. Many generations of hurtful actions that women have done against each other knowingly or unknowingly, all together describe sister wounds.
This is what Sister wounds feel like:
· When a woman does not trust another woman and feels like she does not have good intentions for her.
· Whenever a woman feels jealous or envies another woman and plots to harm her or bring her down in any way.
· You must have seen or experienced that most of the time woman sees another woman as competition
· Most women disvalue each other and have catfights over a man.
· There are fears inbuilt inside most of the woman that does not allow them to genuinely love another woman as a sister.
· They can even help it. It’s not who they are or who they want to be. But somehow this society has shaped them into a person who doubts their worth and craves external validation.
· Divide and rule. This is what patriarchal society has done to a woman because together as a community would have been too powerful for anyone to be defeated.
The problem has been mentioned and explained. But the solution to this problem is still unanswered. How can we escape from these wounds that have been subconsciously fitted into our brains for generations now?
The Death of Sister Wound
· The first way to cure or heal something is to be aware of it. You know what sister would in-general is but you still have to figure out the thoughts and patterns that keep showing up in your day-to-day lives as sister wound.
· Once you have recognized your emotions, embrace them. Remember resisting those emotions won’t help. You have to allow yourself to feel those emotions and you will realize that with time they will get vanished on their own.
· Create a safe and positive environment around and within you. Self-love is the key. When women love and prioritize themselves. It will become easy for them to love others.
· You need to work on your subconscious. The thoughts you are getting have been deep-rooted into your subconscious for generations.
· Working to rewire them will take time but remember, you won’t pass on these wounds to the next generation. This them they will heal.
· You need to win small battles every day. And start appreciating another woman for their own. This way a loving community will build. This community will teach others to walk on the same path of love and appreciation.
· The toughest task of this healing journey is recognizing that you are wounded. Once you know that, you will yourself do things that will allow you to heal.
· And once this process of healing begins, you just cannot keep it to yourself. Healing is contagious and fun. Once you have tasted what being a healed person feels like, before you even realize these wounds would become a history
· You can start groups that will help other women to not only stand up for themselves but also for others. This way something phenomenal will be created and patriarchy will vanish on its own.
Conclusion
Now it’s time to conclude this article. We started by giving a short and crisp explanation of what is Sister wound and how it has been affecting our society for generations now. Some common things that happen in our society daily which are examples of sister wounds were also explained.