Trust! People have messed up ideas and ideologies about this word. Think of an underrated song that you love. Many people don’t know about that song but its lyrics and rhythm mesmerize you.
Trust is just like that song. Its importance is so underrated that people at times forget that trust is what holds all kinds of relationships together. Trusts bring melody and rhythm. Without trust, life would be like a song with meaningless lyrics.
Here, I’ll give you a short and crisp explanation about trust, its importance, what issues people have with it, and how you can deal with them.
Simplifying the Complications of Trust
Believe it or not, almost everyone you know has a messed-up relationship with trust. For someone, not being able to trust others is the biggest problem and for some, over-trusting is an issue.
It is important to understand why a topic that seems so simple has become so complex for many. What are the reasons for this mishappening?
· The upbringing of a child has a lot to do with their personality and behavior with themselves as well as others. If they had a traumatic childhood then they may face issues like not being able to trust easily or overtrusting others.
· The type of bonding these children had with their parents affects their relationship with trust and other people as well. Studies showed that those children who had a trouble-free childhood, where they received all the care and attention needed for overall growth could easily trust people without over-thinking or over-analyzing the entire situation.
· Traumas are the main reason why people either don’t share or overshare. Now, traumas could happen to anyone at any age. For most people, childhood explains it all.
· But this is not it. Some people had a healthy childhood but developed trust issues later in their life. Either in their teenage or adult life. This is mostly because of the experiences they had with other people. Betrayals of their partners or colleague or close friend made them build a wall around themselves.
The subconscious wall of protection
· They made this wall subconsciously to protect themselves. But is it protecting them? Yes, they are being protected. But not only from the bad things but also from most of the good things that could have happened to them.
· The importance of trust in relationships is just like the importance of salt in food. It may seem like a small ingredient but has the power to make the food tasteless, the same goes with trust in relationships.
· Trust can easily make or break a family or a person. People need to realize that they don’t have to take life so seriously and bad things are going to happen, some un-trustworthy people are going to come into their lives. They can’t help it.
· But if they keep this wall around themselves then they may miss out on some good people, experiences, and opportunities. In simpler words, it can be said that they may miss out on everything including life itself.
So, without any further ado, let’s discuss some of the ways through which you can overcome this fear of not being able to trust people.
Overcoming the Fear Effortlessly
Trust issues are like fears. You are scared that people will use you or make a fool out of you for trusting them. Your inner voices are telling you to not trust people and you are listening to those voices. Forgetting about the power you have.
The power to choose. You are free to make your own decisions, you are to decide who to listen to and who to ignore. That inner voice wants to protect you and you definitely should look out for yourself but you don’t have to pay such a high price for that. You don’t have to miss out on life or people or experiences in the name of protecting yourself.
See, no one in this world is limitless. Everyone has their limits of trusting, sharing, believing, and praying. You just have to find yours and stick to it. Ever heard of making healthy boundaries? Yes? Well, then make!
Make people realize that you are a good person, not a stupid one. And this can only be done when you know who you are and you respect yourself enough to make healthy boundaries for yourself.
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